Another excerpt from Choosing to See...
"Some people...would innocently try to connect our sorrow with some event in their own lives. They were simply trying to relate the best they could. But when they people would say that they knew how we felt because they'd lost their dad or their mom or their grandmother, I felt numb. I know grief is grief, and pain is pain, still, in the natural order of this life we do tend to lose our parents and grandparents first. Burying a (child) isn't in the usual order of things."